Dear Dorothy, on your second birthday.

Dear Dorothy,

Happy second birthday! I can’t believe you are now 2 and are officially not a baby anymore. In a way it seems like just yesterday that you were a newborn but at the same time it feels like forever a go.

Your second year of life has been wonderful. It started with you being a flower girl at your auntie’s wedding and I couldn’t have been more proud of you. We then went on our first proper holiday to Morocco and you and Margot were like celebrities there! All of the waiters at the restaurants loved you and always shouted “eyyy Dotty girl!!!” At you!

You have a huge appetite for mischief that is almost insatiable. You are the reason we have had to put child locks on every drawer in the living room! You really are the ring leader with your sister as well and normally are the one to start the mischief making.

You are sociable and cuddly but you are still really independent. You are always happy to play on your own and you can become so engrossed with what you’re doing that it really wouldn’t matter if someone else was there or not. You absolutely love playing with duplo at Grandma’s house and you could happily play for hours with it.

You’re also still a huge fan of cuddly toys. You have a little monkey that you sleep with … Actually it’s 2 now as I bought a spare in case we lost one but you caught wind of that quickly! You normally latch on to cuddly toys wherever you go and you also really enjoy playing with babies.

One thing that I love about you is your wild, adventurous spirit. You love being outside and your catchphrase is “I climb?” … You just love climbing and going down slides etc. You also love swinging on bars at the top of climbing frames which can be a bit scary for us!

You can be so chilled at times and you absolutely adore watching tv. You would happily sit and watch tv for hours and you love to ask me to prop you up with cushions and put a blanket over you so you can be all nice and “cosy”.

Other times you are not so chill and we see feisty Dotty come out. You have such a short fuse and can be wound up so easily. You scream and tantrum and throw yourself on the floor as well as biting, hitting and throwing stuff! A lot of it is frustration on your part and we try not to be too hard on you.

You do like food but you can be quite picky and take forever to eat a meal. It can be really frustrating as half the time Margot has finished a meal and you’re just getting started! But we try to let you take the time when we can!

You love animals and insects and are obsessed with spiders. You love to tell us what colour things are and count to 5 really quickly. Your speech is fantastic and you can pretty much repeat anything back to us now and we are really starting to have proper conversations – it’s so nice.

You adore the beach and playing in the water although you have an irrational fear of crabs! You absolutely love digging and finding treasure on the beach and you could happily spend all day there. You also love ice cream and lollies and every time you go to the beach you try your luck and ask for one… well maybe one day it’ll work!

You already enjoy worshipping God and always put your arms up in the air when we say “praise the Lord” and randomly say “thank you God” all the time! You love singing and dancing and wiggling your bottom and generally being silly.

You always have us smiling and we feel so unbelievably blessed to have you in our lives.

All my love forever,

Mummy xxx

Day 4 – Kynance Cove & Gunwalloe | West Cornwall holiday with toddlers | Kate and the Twins

I’m blogging our experience of our holiday in Cornwall with our twin toddlers! Here is the link the day 3, the previous post!

Day 4 was the day that we decided to head down to Kynance Cove. You have probably seen it on social media a lot recently with a post saying “is this really England”. Well let me tell you, it did not disappoint!

You park at the top at a National Trust car park (free to members). The car park is huge but in the summer I imagine it would get full very quickly as it is so popular there. You then have to walk down to the cove which is not for the faint hearted. The walk itself isn’t too hairy but it is very long and tiring and I would definitely recommend taking carriers rather than push chairs. I wore flip flops as well which really wasn’t ideal – definitely a walk for trainers!

The walk does boast INCREDIBLE views of the cove, though. And as they say, nothing good comes easy!

The beach was just dreamy. The water was clear and gorgeous and had the most stunning turquoise colour to it. There was a cafe and toilet facilities which were built in to the rock so as not to lose the aesthetic. Once the tide comes in there really isn’t much beach at all so choose your time wisely. It’s a must see for anyone visiting West Cornwall!

After the walk back up we were knackered and Josh decided to spend the evening in the caravan with the girls whilst I went off to Gunwalloe and visited some of the beaches there and took in the scenery. It was stunning and Poldark fans will recognise it from the ship wreck scene.

That concludes day 4!

Next up is our last day, in Falmouth!

Day 3- West Cornwall Holiday with Toddlers | Minack theatre, Porthcurno & Church Cove

Part 3 of my blogs about our holiday. You can read about day 2 here and day 1 here .

Day 3 was our busiest day. We got up fairly early and headed to the minack theatre. It was a long trip from where we were staying but well worth it. It was really like something from another country. Built in to the cliff overlooking the stunning sea of Porthcurno. It only costs a few quid to get in and little ones are free so it’s well worth it. Definitely take babies and toddlers in carriers though as it’s very steep and could be slippy on wet days.

We headed to Porthcurno after this and went to the beach cafe there. Honestly I wouldn’t recommend this cafe, the food was average at best and the coffee really wasn’t very nice.

Porthcurno is a fantastic beach though. The waves were crazy and the sea was so clear. I went for a swim and it was throwing me around so much – fun but I could barely breathe! We kept the girls on the sand as it definitely wasn’t paddling waves!

We then headed back to our caravan and had some dinner before heading out again! We decided to go for a “golden hour” walk along the lizard peninsula. We went to church cove and walked across the headland and found the RNLI lifeboat station.

It was a gorgeous walk with some fantastic views!

After that we headed back to our caravan. Stay tuned for day 4!

Day 2 – Poldhu Beach & Mullion Cove | West Cornwall holiday with twin toddlers |

Hey guys,

If you don’t already know, I am doing a series of blog posts about our holiday in Cornwall. I’ve had a few messages about it on Instagram so I thought I’d do a blog post on each day so as not to make it too long. You can read about day 1 here.

So, originally we had planned to go to St Michael’s Mount on this day but instead we opted for a more chilled day. We headed to Poldhu beach. It was recommended to me as an easy, safe beach and it definitely was. We arrived and we were a bit disappointed because although it was a national trust beach, it wasn’t a national trust car park! Meaning we had to pay! However on that day the machine happened to be out of order meaning a free park for us… result!

It was a little walk down to the beach but it was one of those beaches that there was a little stream running down which was perfect for us. Although the girls adore the beach, the waves often scare them and they much prefer playing with still water.

Of course we popped to the cafe and grabbed a coffee which was lovely. The cafe was gorgeous too and a highly recommend eating there if you want a few days not packing a picnic. Unfortunately it was super windy when we were there. It was a bit annoying but it kept it nice and cool – we have a wind break which kept it a lot less annoying!

It was an absolutely lovely time on the beach!

That night we decided to go for fish and chips in Mullion. Mullion only has one fish and chip shop and honestly I seriously do not recommend – it was so disappointing. The fish was over cooked and the chips were soggy.

The harbour itself was absolutely stunning and so warm. We walked up to the harbour wall and honestly the view took my breath away – I’d never seen anything like it!

We then headed to the supermarket quickly as Dotty’s shoes had broken and the cheeky monkeys tried to hijack the car!

So there you have day 2 of our holiday!

Day 1 – St Ives |Our holiday to West Cornwall with twin toddlers |

I have decided to write up a bit of a holiday diary of what we got up to whilst we were away on our holiday to West Cornwall. I had a lot of people actually request me to do this so I thought I’d take it day by day so I can share some of my lovely photos.

So, on the first day we got up fairly early and packed up the car. With kids of course it takes forever and we ended up leaving around 10am.

We arrived at 11.30am and since it was quite late there was nowhere to park! Eventually we found a spot and Trenwith car park. I’d recommend it to anyone with kids as it is really big and I reckon as long as you get there before 10, even in the holidays there will be spaces. It’s a long old walk to town but there is a park and ride bus for £2 return (under 4s free) and it didn’t take very long – the buses run every 10 minutes so they’re very frequent!

Once we got dropped off we walked to the harbour. Oh my word, it was like nothing I’ve ever seen before! It was absolutely stunning – the water was completely turquoise and it absolutely took my breath away.

We wanted to grab some food and eat it on the beach but as it was getting later and later so we ended up just getting some sausage rolls from Warren’s Bakery. We decided to sit on a bench on the harbour to eat the sausage rolls but a seagull grabbed mine off me! I definitely wouldn’t recommend eating outside as so many people got hurt by the seagulls. I would recommend the cafe “the scoff troff” – I wanted to go there but we couldn’t find it in time. You can get a picnic from there and take it to the beach (if you want to brave the seagulls)

Next we went down to the beach. It wasn’t very big particularly as it was high tide but my goodness was the water clear! The girls absolutely loved splashing around in the water- there was no waves and it was very calm.

After that we wandered in to the town and had a look round some of the gorgeously cute shops. We had the girls on our backs in some carriers. I got the carriers off Amazon and I’ll do a review of them soon!

After this we headed to our campsite and checked in. We then decided to go and get fish and chips but sadly it was shut! So instead we went to Sainsburys to get our shop and picked something to eat there!

Even though we absolutely loved our day in St Ives, a few hours wasn’t really long enough! I think we will go down again on a sunny September weekend so we can explore more when it’s not as busy.

What I’ve learnt after living in Cornwall for 1 year

I write this sitting on the edge of a cliff, watching the sun go down and listening to the waves lap the shore on the beach down below. It’s the last night of our “staycation” – our holiday down in West Cornwall. Tuesday 3rd July marks 1 year living in Cornwall and as such I’m feeling all reflective. A year a go we packed up our home up north and moved 300 miles down south without any friends, any jobs or anywhere to live (our house was still being finished!)

Even though I lived in Cheshire for 5 years, it never really felt like “home”. I originally only intended to live there for a year but one thing led to another and before I knew it I was living there with my husband and two children! When the opportunity arose for us to move to Cornwall I was immediately over the moon. Not only was it where my parents were based but it also meant an entirely fresh start which was something I really craved. Now, I grew up in Essex but I definitely consider myself at least part Cornish. My maiden name (now middle name) is Trevelyan and my family have lived in Cornwall since the domesday day book (basically nearly 1000 years) or longer. I have Cornish blood in my veins that’s for sure! And incidentally, my husband was actually conceived in Cornwall! So we definitely feel like locals rather than outsiders. I think that’s why moving to Cornwall felt like coming home in a lot of ways and whilst there have been some challenges the move was on the whole extremely positive for all of us.

Cornwall is like nowhere else I’ve ever known. It is a law unto itself and honestly it kind of feels like a different country all together from the rest of the UK (in fact there has recently been a campaign to consider Cornish an ethnic minority!). The pace of life is so much slower down here, sometimes frustratingly so as everything runs on “cornish time” and will happen “dreckly” rather than any specific time or date (a fact that frustrated my parents to no end when renovating their house). But all in all I love how relaxed things are down here – whether it’s down the single track lanes when drivers go out of there way to be kind and reverse miles to a passing point or the fact the cashier in Aldi actually helps you get your bags straight before throwing everything in. It really feels very chilled and enjoyable. I think it helps that there aren’t lots of big town centres with high street shops around- I have to drive nearly an hour to find shops that used to be on my doorstep. This can be frustrating but I also think it means people are are so much less materialistic and driven by “things”.

Cornwall is extremely patriotic. Everything is “cornish this, cornish that” – cornish people proudly display their black and white flag on their driveway, their car, some people even have it tattooed!! I recently was in a cafe where they advertised that they served “cornish tap water” which really amused me. It’s a good thing though as it encourages people to shop locally and let’s face it you can’t beat a cornish cream tea can you (#jamfirst). Cornwall even has its own radio station, Pirate FM who’s tag line is “love Cornwall, love music, love pirate FM” and if you don’t listen to it you may as well leave the county now… anyway how else would you find out about Trago’s latest deals (you’ll always find a better deal at Trago… crap it’s in my head now).

One thing I find myself saying in my head a lot these days is “bloody tourists”. I didn’t notice it last summer as I was new here but Cornwall’s population doubles during the summer months. The beaches that we were once the only people on are now rammed with people and the parking prices triple in the summer! It can be frustrating when you are a local but ultimately tourism is what brings money to Cornwall and it can feel a bit depressing walking round a seaside town like Looe in the winter when it’s like a ghost town! The beaches are pretty spectacular in the winter though and Cornwall is a pretty rainy place most of the time so make the most of the sunshine whilst you can!

People seem way more friendly down here too although those with broad accents can take some getting used to! I made more friends in the first few months living here than I did for the five years I lived up north. It can be very lonely moving to a new place and there are still times where I feel I don’t quite fit but for the most part I feel so lucky to have met the people that I have.

Josh and I have given up making long term plans for the future as they never pan out anyway. Cornwall may not be forever for us – after all we are still in our early twenties – but definitely for the foreseeable future Cornwall is home. And even if we do eventually move away years down the line, I think it always will be.

So here’s to our first wonderful year in Cornwall – the highs, the lows, the beaches, the country lanes and the memories our girls are making here.

Lanhydrock Bluebells | My National Trust

You may notice that we go to Lanhydrock quite a lot! Being National Trust members it’s always great to have a cheap day out and Lanhydrock is our closest property. They have a pretty gorgeous bluebell wood that is stunning at this time of year and we headed there during the gorgeous weather last weekend!

One thing that really bothered me, though, was how trodden down some Bluebells were! People had clearly gone off the path to get the perfect Instagram photo but it just ruins it for everyone else!

Anyway, here are some photos of us in and amongst the gorgeous flowers! (On the paths haha)

What being a feminist means to me

I still remember the day I first learnt what feminism was. I was in my first week of my first year at uni, sat in a large lecture hall. “Hands up if you consider yourself to be a feminist” came the call from the lecturer. Only a few hands went up, not including mine (shout out to Callum if you’re reading this cos you did put your hand up!). The lecturer wasn’t surprised and went on to tell us the dictionary definition of feminism.

“The advocacy of women’s rights to create equality of the sexes”

She asked us again to put our hands up if we considered ourselves to be feminists and every single hand went up.

You see, up until this point I’d believed that feminism was all about thinking women were better than men. Women should rule, be in charge, take over. In my mind I was thinking “well I’m all for girl power but feminism isn’t for me”. So many people say that they agree with gender equality, but not feminism. They are the same. damn. thing. Feminism is about women, yes. But it’s about promoting women’s rights to create equality. Nothing more than that. For years women have been downtrodden. It’s an uncomfortable reality for people to face but it’s true. For years a woman wasn’t allowed to work, then she could work but only until she got married. Then after that she could work but only until she had children. Women used to be used as property to be bought and sold. Gradually we have progressed and society has evolved, we are starting to make real head way but there is still so much sexism that goes on in daily life and the sad fact is we barely even notice it. What’s more, many countries are nowhere near as progressive as us and girls all over the world are being pushed down and overlooked on a good day, objectified or raped on a bad day.

That’s not to say it’s all great for men. Awful stuff also happens to men every single day… but a pursuit of gender equality means that the stigma surrounding male rape, male domestic abuse victims and male suicide is shifting. So men and women both benefit from feminism and gender equality.

Of course, there are people who “give feminism a bad name” there are women out there who hate men and call themselves feminist. But the dictionary definition focuses on equality of the sexes, those people are not true feminists. Just like terrorists are not true Muslims and murderers of innocent school children are not true Christians.

With all that being said, what does feminism mean for me?

First of all, freedom. Being a stay at home mum, I once thought I was “un-feminist” but I have since realised that gender equality gives us the freedom to work or not. It also gives dads the opportunity to stay home if that’s what they want. Being a stay at home mum isn’t weak, it’s strong because it means I am prepared to sacrifice to do the best for my family. But feminism also means that more and more women who have amazing careers are able to go back to work thanks to maternity pay etc.

Secondly, feminism is opportunity. It means that there is a world of options open to my daughters regardless of their gender. I did a quick search for “girls toys” on toys r us. The first categories that came up were dolls, arts and crafts, beauty accessories and make believe toys featuring a picture of a microwave. Do you know what came up for boys? Building sets, action figures and LEARNING. Yes, that’s right, companies think beauty accessories are a higher priority for young girls than LEARNING. I don’t want my daughters to grow up thinking that their outward beauty is all they are which is why I actively try to compliment them on their intelligence, strength and bravery every single day rather than just how pretty they are. I want them to have the opportunity to play with toys that will challenge their mind and grow their skills. I personally don’t think there is any need to label toys “boys” or “girls”. I want my girls to have opportunity to play rugby, do ballet, play video games, programme computers, cook and so much more.

Finally I think for me feminism is about safety. We’ve all heard the stories; woman rejects man in a club and gets punched. Male domestic abuse victim is not taken seriously. These kind of stories show how dangerous life can be for men and women. Particularly women in other countries where laws aren’t so strict/ well enforced and women regularly get bought and sold or given away as property. Rape is a weapon of war. It’s not ok and it isn’t the type of world I want to live in. Once we start to see the sexes as equal it starts to become less ok to do these things.

As a Christian I believe we are all made equal by God. When Jesus was alive, he cared for women and treated them as human beings which is something that was seldom done in those days. He would have been seen as radical on his approach to women.

I want my girls to grow up with every opportunity that their male peers have. I want them to know that they can be strong and sensitive. They can be a stay at home mum or prime minister of the UK. Equally, if I ever have a son I wish the same for him. I want him to know it’s ok to cry and not like football.

So there you have it.

I’m a feminist. I believe in equality.

Thanks for reading.

Watergate bay | Cornwall days out with toddlers/ kids |

Last weekend we headed to Watergate Bay to make the most of the mini heatwave we had. The weather was incredible!

When we got there we were horrified that we had to pay £8 to park all day. It might not seem like a lot for a one off but living in Cornwall means we visit the beach most weekends and it quickly adds up!

We started off with a little walk on the beach followed by lunch at The Beach Hut. We didn’t book given that it was only April but they said it was mega busy and they just managed to squeeze us in! We sat facing the beach which was lovely and the food was fantastic.

We then went on to the beach. The weather was so lovely that the girls were in their swimsuits and absolutely loving it. They love the beach so so much.

We finished off the evening at home with a Pimms!

Chippy tea on Looe beach

Last week when Josh got home from work we headed to Looe to have a chippy tea. Looe is probably our closest seaside town and whilst the beach isn’t anything special (just a standard beach) it has some lovely shops etc. And was close by enough for us to go there when Josh finished work. It was a stunning day, really warm and sunny so we thought we’d make the most of it. Looe is normally pretty busy but as it was the evening it had quieted down on the beach quite a lot which meant we could let the girls run around and not worry too much.

We went to Catch which is on the quay side and I would highly recommend. The food was incredible. It was one of those evenings when I just felt so content and happy and so glad we have moved to such a beautiful part of the world.