Being mum: 12-15 months

So next up in my being mum series is 12-15 months. The girls have just turned 15 months so this post is going to be all about what it has been like since they turned 1!

First of all, the girls have learnt so much since they’ve turned 1. I know we think that pretty much ever month but seriously in this time period I have been so surprised at how much they’ve changed. They’re like little sponges and are constantly learning new things. First of all, their movement has changed a lot. At 12 months they were crawling but now they are both walking. Margot is fantastic at walking and never crawls at all anymore whereas Dotty is much slower and still very wobbly, at this point she can only take a few steps but she is getting there! They love climbing and getting up to all sorts of mischief. Their speech has also come on in leaps and bounds, Margot in particular can say 20+ words now and is very confident when chatting. Dotty is also very good at talking but she is a lot more quiet and whispery, she only speaks if SHE wants to not if anyone else tells her to! They understand so much of what I say to them now and communicate if they are tired, hungry or need their nappy changed. At this stage they have also learnt to play much more on their own which has been fantastic for me in a lot of ways because it means I can get on with other things. However, as they like to get up to mischief it can be very difficult to leave them to it for too long! I always think each stage is my favourite stage but I really am loving the stage they are in right now – they are just so much fun and such a joy to be around! That being said, we are starting to see a lot more tantrums creep in! If things don’t go their way they can get very frustrated and angry but they don’t really respond to discipline so that is an issue!!

Normally I post the girls monthly updates on these posts but when they reached 12 months we didn’t carry on writing their updates monthly on Instagram. Instead we have decided to do them every three months so I will post their updates from 12 months and 15 months.

This month Dotty has come on in leaps and bounds. She’s now crawling and pulling herself up on furniture and she’s quite speedy when she wants to be! She’s not the most chatty baby but she sometimes randomly starts screaming with joy as loud as she can! She’s a real book worm and absolutely loves reading. We have woken up some mornings and found her flicking through a book! She’s getting good at responding to things you say, if you ask her where her head, tummy and feet are she’ll pat them!
She’s also learnt to cuddle by putting her head on you and saying “aaaahhh”. She so loves giving kisses but decides that she kisses with tongues and always tries to snog you! Sometimes when she has to be woken up from a sleep she gets startled and starts clapping, it’s so funny! She’s still a chilled baby but she does have a fiery temper and gets cross easily!
It’s been an absolute delight watching Dotty grow & develop this year and we have loved every minute! ❤

This month Margot has got a lot faster at crawling and is pulling herself up on furniture, legs, walls and anything she can find! She’s also started cruising and moving that way and loves being helped to walk by holding her hands. She’s also learnt where her head, tummy and feet are and she’s learnt what the word “bounce” means too! She definitely tries to communicate a lot and will point at things and say “ook”. She also tries to say Fred which just shows how much she absolutely loves animals. If she sees an animal on TV she’ll stare for ages! She loves pressing her face against our glass doors and looking out and she’s very affectionate and loves giving cuddles and kisses. She’s become a lot more happy to play independently with her new found confidence from crawling!
Margot is such a sweetheart and we have over watching her grow up this past year! ❤

15 MONTHS OLD! Dotty is a passionate little fireball! She has the most sweet nature but when something doesn’t go her way, boy do you know it! She gets angry and bites or swipes at whatever is closest be that object, person or herself! She has long hair which has to be clipped back and she has lots of big teeth at the back. She’s a very fussy eater and would rather go hungry than eat something she doesn’t want! She spends the first 5 minutes of any meal deconstructing every item by poking it with her index finger until she deems it’s suitability. She’s started getting good at using a spoon but will get bored quickly. She’s not the best at sleeping and can take up to an hour to get to sleep! She can stand for quite a while if we put her in the position but she still doesn’t walk. She has the ability but doesn’t seem to want to… She either makes her legs go floppy or will lunge forward rather than taking a step. She absolutely loves climbing and will stand on top of anything and everything. She’s still an avid reader and she also enjoys problem solving toys. She’s getting a very good vocabulary but she’s fairly quiet and only talks when she’s in the right mood. She’s a mummy’s girl and is extremely cuddly and is happy to snuggle on the sofa. She’s still miss independent and is happy to play alone and ditches mummy at every baby group! She’s a true delight ❤❤❤

MARGOT AT 15 MONTHS! Margot took her first steps around 6 weeks a go and is now extremely confident at walking. She barely crawls at all anymore. She hates being in her pushchair for that reason! She loves being read to and brings books over to you and sits on your knee! She has a fantastic vocabulary of 20 words+ and can recognise animals and make their sounds. She especially loves tigers and elephants at the moment! She has also learnt to say “poo poo” when she’s filled her nappy! She enjoys pulling funny faces and laughing about it. She’s great at mimicking facial expressions too! She also loves giving cuddles and kisses and waving at people out and about! She loves to say “shoes” and bring your shoes over to you and today she got measured for her first big girl hard sole shoes! She’s still lacking in hair but has lots of teeth and a big pot belly! She’s very calm and chilled out for the most part and still loves her sleep and can nap for ages! She loves pretending to talk on the phone and giving her reflection kisses! Margot you are wonderful ❤❤

Thanks for reading

Kate-Sig-1

How to boss being a stay at home mum

Being a stay at home mum is hard and sometimes a bit monotonous. I’ve always aspired to have a career rather than a family so being a full time mum has been a definite learning curve for me! So, with that in mind I thought I’d write a blog post all about how I get the most fulfilment out of being a stay at home mum and what little things I’ve changed to make sure I really enjoy my time with the girls! It isn’t just for people who are full time mums, though! Whether you work part-time, or just have weekends with your babas I hope this helps you!

1. Be present

Now that the girls are older they often are quite content and happy to play on their own. Sometimes, it might be easier for me to just let them get on with it and of course sometimes I do. Sometimes, I clean up after their meals and get on with stuff  whilst they play but I also make sure I take the time for a good hour or so to put my phone out of reach and just enjoy playing with them. Granted, it can be very tempting to give them half my attention whilst checking my emails or watching a YouTube video, but the thing is I can do that whilst they nap or in the evening. Of course it’s good for kids to be able to play on their own but it’s also really important to enjoy your precious moments with your kiddos!

 

 

2. Screen time

Of course, at the moment my girls are too young for pretty much any other screen than that of the television so I can’t comment too much on tablets and phones and stuff. HOWEVER, we all know that ‘studies show screen time is crap for your kid’ or words to that effect. For the most part, I agree – there’s nothing worse than having kids tv blaring in the background all day long and now that the girls are more perceptive I won’t watch anything too ‘adult’ around them. Watching too much tv can affect their concentration as they grow up and other things. That being said, I do let the girls watch television – especially if they’re tired or I just need to distract them whilst I make their tea or get ready in the morning. A big tip for watching television with your children though is to actually watch it WITH them from time to time, rather than just using it as a distraction as I said before. Every now and then I put something on that I’ll also enjoy (Disney movie, Shrek or that kind of thing) and sit and watch it with them. It may only last twenty minutes but it is so lovely to have snuggly quality time with them!

3. Get out and about

I know this one is probably said to you ALL the time but it actually is so so helpful. It is so difficult to get out of the house especially with twins so its definitely important to find a time that works for you – I personally prefer to go out either all morning or all afternoon so the girls still get one of their naps at home. Obviously sometimes we go out all day but week to week I prefer to have time at home each day – the girls never nap enough when we’re out and about! Baby/toddler groups are an amazing way to give your child a change of scenery and a few new toys to play with as well as social interaction with other children (learning to share etc.) but it also helps us mums get to know other mums and have a bit of adult chat ourselves. Not every play group is going to work for you so it might take some time to find one that’s at the right time and distance from where you live. Also, sometimes other mums aren’t going to talk to you and you either have to really make the effort to push yourself in to conversations or give up and try a different group. Of course you’re not going to gel with every group of mums but don’t let it put you off trying again! I currently go to three baby groups a week and it really saves my sanity! Play groups aren’t the only way to get out of the house, of course. Just heading down to the park or for a stroll round the shops can be fab and give your child a bit of fresh air. I love taking my girls for walks and getting out in the sunshine (or sometimes rain!). If you just can’t face going out, get out in the garden! We have some mud suits for the girls so that they can crawl around in the garden and not worry about getting mucky and we have a slide and a seesaw for them in the garden that were pretty cheap. In your garden you can wear your pjs if you wish but at least your child is burning off some of that energy! Finally, don’t be afraid to go for adventures with your kids during the week! Normally, we wait for the weekend to have our big days out as that is when daddy is home and it gets expensive doing it regularly, however I’ve realised that this puts a lot of pressure on us to do lots at the weekend and make it memorable. Sometimes if my husband has had a tiring week at work he just wants to chill at home for most of the day and that’s fine especially if I know that we have got out and about and stimulated the girls a lot through the week! It can be daunting going out all day alone with your kids but it won’t be as bad as you think!

4. Find a hobby

I know, I know this feels like one of those things you always hear but bear with me! It can be tempting to just slump on the sofa during nap times and evenings or get on with the long to do list or house work and of course some days that does have to be done. However, its also important to take time for yourself and do something that you enjoy, whether that’s sitting reading a book, baking a cake or sewing some clothes. I enjoy baking but I also enjoy writing my blog and editing videos so that is something I do to just feel like ‘me’ rather than ‘mummy’. It doesn’t have to be anything hard work or taxing – maybe pick up your hubby’s play station controller and give that a go! You might surprise yourself.

5. Prioritise

This one is absolutely key. Yes, house work is important and its good for your child to have clean clothes BUT ask yourself, can this wait til tomorrow or when my child is asleep? It might not seem like it now when they days sometimes drag by but these are the times we are going to miss SO much when they grow up! Prioritise each day what chores and house work you want to get done on that particular day and leave it to that. It can be hard to let things go but you also need time to rest and enjoy yourself without feeling frazzled and stressed. Have a calm conversation with your partner about how they can help you with housework rather than having a go at them/nagging!

I hope you have enjoyed this blog post – I don’t have it all figured out but these are some changes I have made recently to try and help my time with the girls go more smoothly and be more enjoyable.

Kate-Sig-1